CULTIVATE YOUR BARREN LAND

April 8th, 2017 Comments off


Speaker:Rev. E.E. Abraham, Emmanuel Christian Fellowship Center

Sermon: January 15, 2017 at the Newbern Chinese Alliance Church in Vancouver

Recorded by:Rosa Yau

Translated by Stephen Li

Edited by: Rev. Paul Lai (including material from the book [Why Die Before Your Time]

 

Snatched from the Jaws of Death — It’s All God’s Grace

Over 20 years ago, I did not know what I was living for. Life was filled with gloom and a sense of helplessness. As life’s dreams could not be fulfilled, there was no point in continuing to live, so I decided to end my life under the train that passed through the suburbs every evening.

As I was contemplating killing myself, suddenly a thought crossed my mind:  my death must not bring trouble upon my kind and loving parents, so I should at least leave a note behind, absolving them from any involvement in my death. The police were sure to question them.

To do this, I entered another room in search for a piece of paper. I knew that I could find some under my grandfather’s Bible that was kept in one of the cupboards. I reached out and lifted up the Bible. Suddenly, I heard a voice saying ?on, open the book and read!??o:p>

I held the Bible and let it just fall open. My eyes fell upon Ecclesiastes 7:16-18: [—–Do not be over wicked, and do not be a fool. Why die before your time? It is good to grasp the one and let go of the other. The man who fears God will avoid all extremes,]

[Who is setting all of this up? Did someone find out my suicide plan?] I wondered. Although no one was around, yet I kept hearing a voice saying, ——-persist in keeping this, and do not avoid it or disobey.??This was so wonderful ??it appeared to be directed right to me. At precisely that moment, within the depths of my heart, I knew that God was speaking to me, even though I did not know Him. Thank the Lord, He rescued me from death, led me into His grace and salvation, and even called me into full time ministry.

A Barren Land – An Unreached People

For many years I served in mission work in southern India. As time passed, I experienced various trials and buffeting, even assassination attempts by religious radicals who opposed Christianity, but was amazingly protected by the Lord. After a period of ministry there, God called me to northern India to take the gospel to a barren land, where the inhabitants were poor and abandoned. They had not heard of the gospel. They had not experienced God? grace, peace, joy and eternal life!

 

 

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THINGS YOU MAY NOT KNOW ABOUT YVONNE

April 3rd, 2017 Comments off

By:Paul Lai

 ranslated by:Edwina Leung

 

 

Yvonne Believed She Was Her Father’s Favorite Child

 

Yvonne had three sisters.? Among the sisters, she was the most filial towards her father.? She would take care of the housework; whether it be washing the dishes or sweeping the floor, she did it all.? When she brewed coffee in the morning, she always gave the first brew of coffee to her father.? Then she would brew a second pot for herself.? While he was enjoying his coffee, Yvonne would run down from their three-story home into the street market to buy a freshly baked baguette for him.? (That’s why I would always give Yvonne the first brew of coffee.? I did this after we married as a treat because she was such a filial daughter.)

 

To avoid jealousy or conflict among the children, Yvonne’s father never mentioned whether he had a favorite daughter.? Naturally, all of the children thought they were his favorite.? Of course, Yvonne also believed with certainty that she was his favorite child.? But why?? It was because of their deep conversations.? In particular, he asked her to take care of her three sisters. Because she had been accepted into a school in France, he asked that she do everything she could to help her sisters prepare for the same course of study overseas.? Yvonne met this promise.? Within a year, she helped her third-youngest sister move to France.? She also helped enroll her youngest sister into a French high school in Ottawa, where we lived at the time.? Unfortunately, when her sister and her father received the airplane tickets in the mail, Phnom Pehn was in a stage of political unrest, and they were unable to fly to Ottawa.  

 

“You Never Bat an Eye at Me When You are Preaching”

 

Yvonne once candidly told me, “When you’re preaching on stage, I sit in the congregation praying incessantly for the Lord to give you strength in your message and in your preaching.? I always look up and give you a smile, but you’re always so focused on preaching, you never bat an eye.”

 

I immediately answered, “It’s not that I don’t want to look at you, but if I did, I’d be afraid I’d smile back.? Then I’d probably become distracted from my message.? Therefore I can’t; I have to be responsible to God and to the audience.”

 

In Sermon Preparation and in My Writings, Yvonne Helped Me a Lot

 

As pastors, we often have the opportunity to further our studies.? The same goes for pastors’ wives.? Once, a guest speaker said that in preaching, one of the most important factors is attention to cultural themes and applying spiritual truths from the Bible.? Yvonne heard this advice and understood immediately.? When she was studying French language and culture, she learned the relationship between the culture and the language, and therefore she understood the art of Scriptural translation.? Therefore, Yvonne helped me in preparing numerous sermons, as well as drafts for my writings.

 

Because Yvonne spent a great deal of time in France, her thoughts and speech reflected that of a Westerner.?? She often asked “Do you love me?”? To which I would reply, “Well of course, why do I need to say it out loud!”? She said, “Love needs to be acknowledged by saying it out loud!”? That’s why she would tell me “I say ‘I love you’ many more times than you.”

 

 

 

I Can Learn a Lot From Yvonne!

 

She easily forgives.? You can tell what she thinks about someone because she is honest and tells it like it is.? But I am lacking her eloquent and graceful display of godly character!? She says “I love you,” “sorry,” and “thank you,” countless times more than I say these to her, and that is why we only had a handful of arguments over the years.? I’ve done things offensive to her, and miscommunicated with her many more times than she has to me!? This, I think, must come from the traditional Chinese idea to “man up” and run the house!

 

“Yvonne is so Westernized!”

 

In my early days at Phnom Penh, a brother said to me, “Yvonne is so Westernized!? Why are you dating her?? Aren’t you afraid she will spread her Western influence to you?”? I really didn’t understand his reasoning at the time.? Maybe he was being influenced by the popular Communist education in Cambodia!? I think it was wrong for him to have prejudice against Western education.? In fact, it is quite the opposite of what he was thinking!

 

Why Do You Only Ask for 10 Years?

 

Before I became ill, I was really impressed by the book “10 Years with Blood Cancer.”? When my doctor told me I was in stage three and not quite stage four of cancer, I prayed to the Lord and asked Him to extend my life for 10 more years.? Yvonne heard this and immediately asked me to take back my prayer; she said I was naive because 10 years is too short.? “You shouldn’t pray like that!? You need to have more faith!” she said.? Thank God for her advice and reminder.

 

Yvonne’s Remarkable Dream

 

 About one year ago, Yvonne had a dream.? She dreamt that she was like a princess, riding into town.? The people around her were waving, welcoming her with much excitement.? At that time, I thought her dream symbolized the possibility of moving to a new mission field where we were being welcomed by the crowds.

 

It hadn’t crossed my mind to compare her dream to her inevitable passing and entering into the Lord’s embrace.? Now that I think about it, I sense God used Yvonne’s dream to give her a glimpse of her heavenly home.? Therefore, Yvonne experienced a deep sense of peace ten days before she passed; she was ready to go to her heavenly home.

 

The night before we held her last fellowship meeting in our home, she said the hymn “God Prepares” was impressed upon her.? She was inspired by God to know that it was time to go home, and in the middle of the night, she asked that we sing this song together.? She requested we sing the second phrase “Whether now, or later, God prepares.? Although it is not according to my timing, not according to my timing, it is according to His timing.”? When to live?? When to die?? It is all according to God’s perfect timeline.? We only need to accept it.

 

That amazing hymn is one that I haven’t sung in years.? So on that night of fellowship, she invited the brothers and sisters to sing “God Prepares.”

 

GOD PREPARES

 

Verses:

  1. Whether this way, or that way, God prepares.? Although it is not according to my plans, or your plans, He has His plan, He prepares.

 

  1. Whether now, or later, God prepares.? Although it is not according to my time, or according to your time, He has His timing, He prepares.”

 

Chorus:

I depend on Him, because He prepares.? I wholeheartedly depend on Him, because He prepares.

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Yvonne’s Remarkable Dream

March 23rd, 2017 Comments off

writen by Pauk Lai
Translted by Edwina Leung

bout one year ago, Yvonne had a dream. She dreamt that she was like a princess, riding into town. The people around her were waving, welcoming her with much excitement. At that time, I thought her dream symbolized the possibility of moving to a new mission field, where we were welcomed by the crowds.

It hadn’t crossed my mind to compare her dream to her inevitable passing and entering into the Lord’s embrace. Now that I think about it, I sense God used Yvonne’s dream to give her a glimpse of her heavenly home. Therefore, Yvonne experienced a deep sense of peace ten days before she passed; she was ready to go to her heavenly home.
The night before we held her last fellowship meeting in our home, she said the hymn “God Prepares” was impressed upon her. She was inspired by God to know that it was time to go home, and in the middle of the night, she asked that we sing this song together. She requested we sing the second phrase “Whether now, or later, God prepares. Although it is not according to my timing, not according to my timing, it is according to His timing.” When to live? When to die? It is all according to God’s perfect timeline. We only need to accept it.
That amazing hymn is one that I haven’t sang in years. So on that night of fellowship, she invited the brothers and sisters to sing “God Prepares.”
God Prepares
1. Whether this way, or that way, God prepares. Although it is not according to my plans, or your plans, He has His plan, He prepares.
2. Whether now, or later, God prepares. Although it is not according to my time, or according to your time, He has His timing, He prepares.”
Chorus:
I depend on Him, because He prepares. I wholeheartedly depend on Him, because He prepares.
Categories: 生命再思

压伤的芦苇祂不折断,将残的灯火祂不吹灭 [轉自生命季刊]Views 22893

March 18th, 2017 Comments off

压伤的芦苇祂不折断,将残的灯火祂不吹灭 

Original 2017-03-16 赖建鹏 生命季刊

 /赖建鹏

小引

[人们所要的是强健的、成功的、胜利的、不碎的。但是神所要的乃是在地上不成功的、失败的、伤心的、软弱的。天上充满着地上破碎的生命,没有一根压伤的芦苇是基督所不能恢复的。祂能使一个被痛苦、忧愁所压伤的生命,变成一架弹出赞美的音乐来的古琴。祂能把地上的失败变成天上的荣耀]。——密勒J.R.Miller

 [没有一根压伤的芦苇是基督所不能恢复的。祂能使一个被痛苦、忧愁所压伤的生命,变成一架弹出赞美音乐的古琴。祂能把地上的失败变成天上的荣耀]。——荒漠甘泉

 芦苇生得很高,除了作鱼竿、间尺等工具外,也可做杖。“压伤的芦苇(杖)”并不是指断了的,而是指在收割时被大力挤压以致折断了。故此,压伤的芦苇在表面上与强健的芦苇一样,也可能短暂让人倚靠,但不知何时它会忽然折断,那时倚之为杖的人就会跌倒了。同样,古代灯火以灯芯燃灯油,“将残”就是灯油快到油尽灯枯的的阶段,随时使屋里的人陷进忽然的黑暗中!正因它们会为身边的人带来忽然的危险,所以人必定会把伤芦与残灯毁掉。

 而我们的主却不是这样,祂的恩慈使祂叫伤苇得以医治,残灯得添新油。我们都喜欢祂的恩慈,所以常被这句话所感动。但,大家有没有想过,祂不断伤苇,又不灭残灯,那么祂留之何用呢?

 “芦苇压伤,灯火将熄”正是今天世人面临的光景。圣经告诉我们,撒但利用人内心的私欲来试探引诱人,让人犯罪,让人任所欲为。人因此被罪所捆绑、被罪压伤,至终成为罪的奴仆,痛苦至极,最悲惨的是他们的灵魂还要等待最后的大审判。耶稣到世上来,道成了肉身,为世人的罪被钉十架。圣经告诉我们;全世界人的罪都归在祂身上,以赛亚书536节:“我们都如羊走迷,各人偏行己路,耶和华使我们众人的罪孽都归在祂身上。”祂为我们被钉十架,所以天父才能因我们的悔改认罪而赦免我们的罪过。因为祂被压伤,祂将命倾倒,以至于死,祂自己好像将残的灯火一样;人以为祂已经死了,已经完了。感谢主!祂复活了,因为祂的复活所以祂能叫压伤的芦苇,再次挺起来。因为祂的复活,带给我们新的希望,新的能力,新的道路,新的异象,我们的生活有了盼望。

 1、耶稣说:“我也不定你的罪。去吧,从此不要再犯罪了!”

 约八章记载文士和法利赛人带着一个行淫时被拿的妇人来,叫她站在当中,就对耶稣说:“夫子,这妇人是正行淫之时被拿的。摩西在律法上吩咐我们把这样的妇人用石头打死。你说该把她怎么样呢?”——耶稣就直起腰来,对他们说:“你们中间谁是没有罪的,谁就可以先拿石头打她。”他们听见这话,就从老到少,一个一个的都出去了,只剩下耶稣一人,还有那妇人仍然站在当中。

这妇女正如被罪压伤,正如被折断的“芦苇”,但满有怜悯慈爱的主说:“妇人,那些人在哪里呢?没有人定你的罪吗?”她说:“主啊,没有。”耶稣说:“我也不定你的罪。去吧,从此不要再犯罪了!”罪必有它的代价。主不定她的罪,因为主在十字架上为所有人的罪付了代价:“因为罪的工价乃是死,惟有神的恩赐,在我们的主基督耶稣里,乃是永生。”(罗六23)感谢主,祂不折断压伤的芦苇,主不定她的罪,吩咐她“从此不要再犯罪了!”祂使人因祂的生命得以绝处逢生,生命重新被建。

 2、被罪孽所压伤的撒玛利亚妇人

约四章记载一位撒玛利亚妇人,她已经有五个丈夫,现在与她同居的人也不是她的丈夫。她被罪孽所压伤。她为了避免别人看见,她在烈日之下没有人打水的时候,出来打水。这个女人正是代表今天的社会。今天世人崇拜性欲的偶像,性与色已达世界每个角落。网络及广告都用色情来吸引人,人已到色情狂的地步了。魔鬼败坏世界的方法,就是让人沉迷在色情里。正像挪亚时代一样,人被色情所迷惑,人终日所想的尽都是恶,已经不知何谓羞耻。感谢主,因着祂的慈爱与忍耐,祂把活水赐于她,令她喝了活水就永不再渴。世人以为追求世上一切的财物、性欲、权势——会能满足于他的人生,其实得了这一切也是再渴,是没有止境的渴。感谢主,今天我们看到许多的人,都因为主耶稣成了他们生命的活水,得蒙主恩,成为主的见证。

 3、失落的浪子

 路十五章记载了主耶稣所讲的失落的浪子。他本有一个温暧富有的家,但因着自由而坚决提早要父亲分家产,离家到外面过浪荡的生活,结果他所有的銭没了,朋友也没了,他过着吃猪食的非人生活。一天他想起在家的生话何等美好,为何在此受苦呢?他走投无路,像被罪压伤的芦苇、又如将残的灯一样,但因着父爱的吸引他还是走上归家之路,悔改,享受父爱重得儿子名份。我们不是与他一样吗?有一首甚为感人诗歌《归家吧!》写出了浪子回头的心声,曾打动许多的浪子归家。六十多年前,耶稣所讲的这个浪子回头的故事及这首诗歌,感动了笔者归回天父的家。感谢主,我归家了,你呢?诗歌的歌词是:“我前迷失远离天父,现今要归家,长犯罪恶自寻穷苦,主,我要归家。归家吧!归家吧!不要再游荡,慈爱天父伸开双手,渴望你归家。”

 效法主耶稣关爱软弱的肢体

 主耶稣不折断压伤的芦苇,不吹灭将残的灯火,若我们真的有主耶稣活在心中,我们必会活出像主一样的生命,去关爱那些被罪、被生活压伤的人,去扶持、安慰、鼓励那些不起眼的人。

 内子罗聪慧离世一年多,她罹患类风湿性关节炎三十多年,像是一根被压伤的芦苇,身体遭受重重打击,虽有才华却像是毫无用武之地。然而她的生命绝不平凡:她的生命里面充满主耶稣的爱,有一颗爱人的心,她效法主耶稣特别关爱弱者。她的身边经常出现一些不起眼的弱者,贫穷又没有学识,受尽歧视及轻看,被远离及避开,被看为是不值得付出时间与之交往的人,障殘人士,心灵受尽压伤,生命的活力将快消失,快将被淘汰,很需要被关爱与鼓励。然而内子却愿意接近他们,关爱他们,倾听他们的心声,与他们为友,用主的爱去把他们扶起,将油瓶加油,好让他们面对挑战而不惧怕。她把主的爱带到他们心中,建立及提升他们,他们的生命从此得以扭转。不少人因着她的关爱,自卑的心理得以重整,渐渐地活出丰盛美丽的人生。感谢主,内子的一生虽曾是压伤的芦苇,却能成为被压伤的芦苇的支援者,成为他们生命中的天使;使那些被痛苦、忧愁所压伤的生命,变成一首赞美的乐章,荣耀及赞美上帝。

以下是从七十多位弟兄姐妹写下的怀念文章的摘录:

 1,我在十四岁时正是需要被肯定的年代,那时你正是用充满确定和平稳的声音带领我们,爲我的信仰成长打下了基础。在过去二十年里,我仍然每天都在实行您的教导方式。我立志在这一生中要把这份遗产传递下去。——Abraham Lim 

 (他的妈妈曾告诉师母:“我的孩子十二岁时,他父亲离家出走。我带着三个儿女从马来西亚到了加拿大,正在为孩子们忧心忡忡之时,神透过一梦,(让我)梦见天使看守着她的儿女。”)

 2,我本来是一个很孤独沉静不发一言又很伤心的少年,常听新世纪的音乐,但经过你的耐心劝导,我终于接受了救恩。我对向中国分享福音有负担,你们资助一部份使我能前赴中国一年。——Henry Lam

 3,我只身先离法赴加,内子及小孩暂住巴黎,您除了上课工作外,还抽出时间每周协助当时怀着身孕的妻子整理家务,令我深受感动,执笔至此,泪水不断流。这几年来,您多次鼓励我,多关注奉献差传事奉,如今我要实现您对我的期望。您是我的楷模:“传扬福音,爱主爱人。”——Philip Lai

 4,我生活在一个充满批评和指责的家庭,自己从来不感觉是一个有用的人。感谢主,上帝让我经历您无条件的接纳与关注。我是您们家中的常客,常聆听您对我的鼓励与教导。您是我生命中的天使,是我属灵的母亲,是我人生的导师,因为是您使我渐渐发现自己原来是有那么多优点的我,令我勇于前进,成为院牧,帮助许多心灵及身体被压伤的芦苇,学效主及您不吹灭将残的灯光,扶持被压伤的芦苇,忠心事奉上帝,感谢主。——谈张坚爱师母,义务院牧

 5,九岁时牙齿排列不整,您鼓励我及早箍牙作出矫正。我配带了牙齿矫正器,此后我无论走到哪里,都可以自信地微笑。家父反对我信主,他说若我继续参加聚会,他会把我踢出家门,我痛哭地奔往你们家中。您说务必尊重爸爸,随后我们一同为此事祷告,隔天我仍静静地参加教会崇拜,感谢主,他没有把我踢出家门,我深深经验到祷告的力量!四十年了这个场景却让我仍然记得那一刻和您温柔的心灵,如“一粒种子”深深种植在我心灵的深处,我从您身上学会了聆听别人并成为被压伤芦苇的扶持者——苏张莲好 儿童工作者

 6,在那一段日子,您常要做外科手术,赖牧师又刚从癌病痊愈。但您仍接待我耐心的聆听我的诉苦、和不断为我祷告,在我人生低谷时,因为您我慢慢找到勇气并唤醒我对弱势族群的关注,之后我重回校园修读辅导学位。您献身关怀别人的爱心,也激励了我,感谢主,祂透过您使我重新与神联系在一起,让我能与主同走这一生的旅程——Voney Hui辅导师

 7,您以生命影响生命,使多人在绝望困境中得着鼓励和亮光。您安慰我们要尊主为大,您的坚毅实在影响着我的一生,从您的身上,我学懂了即使遇上重大的困难,也不要让这些困难动摇我们对神的信心,反而是因此而更依靠主!我们只作仆人。——E. Chu香港恩雨之声执行总监

 82001年十月,那是我人生中跌入最低谷,母亲的离世让我顿然对一切都感到彻底绝望!当中包括不确定的未来、事业上的冲击、人性上的疑惑——于是我去教会,希望借着神的话语去填补我心灵的空缺!仍记得当日第一次接触你,你轻软温暖的手把我搂进你的怀抱,并说:“我明白及理解你的痛!”霎时间,我就像被充了电,有了正能量!我确信上帝借着你的爱去填补我的空虚!——余舜华

 9,师母/赖牧师在他们最幽暗的处境中,向我姐姐(已安息主怀)和她的一家,展开他们的爱心和关怀。姐姐说当年他们也去过几间教会并试图投入,可是总感觉不被接纳,很是孤单!直至来到赖牧师所牧养的教会,才感受到被爱和接纳。他们对忧伤受苦的灵魂更能抚摸到伤痛;我姐姐一家就是芸芸的受益者。——刘文淑芬

 10,师母,我敬佩您,是您早在少女时代,己矢志把婚姻大事决定权交予上帝,如此聪慧、如此美貌、如此贤德就托付终身于一身傻劲、一身单纯信心献身于传道的赖牧师。这以神为念的柔情,又岂是现代自主自我的激爱所能及呢?——麦志坚 香港社工

 结语

 在冷漠的社会环境里,人会无情的践踏折断的芦苇,吹灭油尽灯枯的灯光,但主耶稣同情了解软弱及犯错的人。祂不会折断被压的芦苇,不会吹熄将残的灯火,祂会透过爱祂的人,善于体谅的人,给他们再加一些油,扶起被压的芦苇,一切的软弱、问题,就可以解决,人生就变成不一样了。

 纵然我们落入一个灯火衰残的处境,祂都不会折断或吹灭。感谢慈爱的天父,祂扶持我们,要使我们成为世上的光,引导人们走出黑暗,进入光明。祂要我们成为世界的光,能为祂发光,温暖这个冰冷的世界,把基督耶稣的救恩及爱带到需要的人群。凡愿意跟随祂脚踪的人,必像主那样——压伤的芦苇祂不折断,将残的灯火祂不吹灭。

 赖建鹏  牧师,曾在北美植堂、牧会,已退休,现为温哥华宣道会福群堂顾问。

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傾聽咆吼者的哀鳴—-悦說

March 6th, 2017 Comments off

 

 

  最近因為研究需要,與一位女性施虐者訪談。

  芬(化名)現年四十五歲,在大陸出生及成長。芬自幼渴望得到愛眷,雖曾跟不 同男友拍拖,可惜情花不結果。終於十八歲認識了香港男友,火速註冊結婚,翌年生下長女。女兒在一歲時移居香港,芬也申請雙程證陪女兒在香港生活。母女寄居 於婆家,七人擠逼在三百平方呎的斗室內。丈夫平日多賦閒在家,財政緊拙。婆婆看扁芬是「大陸人」丶「鄉下妹」,整天揶揄不絕。芬於廿四歲懷有次子,因在港 產子而逾期居留,不得不屈在婆婆的虎威之下。芬憶述:「我當時很辛苦,很後悔嫁香港人。沒錢丶沒朋友,又怕給警察抓到。我想當時有抑鬱症。」

  芬終在三十歲獲得了居港權,立刻找工作,除了可以賺錢養家外,還增強操控丈 夫的意念。終於在一次謾罵中,慣於被欺的丈夫狠狠地一腳踢中芬的腹部,芬頓時倒地不起。她召警求助,導致社工介入這個家庭。三年後,一家四口獲配公屋,終 於有屬於自己的居所,但丈夫終日投閒置散,芬身體虛弱,卻要獨自承擔起一家的開銷。芬說:「那晚加班後十時回到家裡,見到丈夫仍在打機,我無名火起,於是 便打他,自始慣常打他。」「我渴望得到丈夫的關心,可是,我趨前他就走遠。」後來,芬的丈夫聲稱在國內工作,索性間斷地不回家。芬當然知道是怎麼一回事, 雖然多番追問,可丈夫的回應就是「不承認,也不否認」。

  五年前是芬人生轉向的里程碑。芬参加了筆者的心理教育小組,分享有兩樣得 著,第一,明白到衝突多因語氣惹起,為了稍延衝動的爆發,靜化喧囂的咆哮,盡量以短訊跟丈夫及子女溝通;第二,追溯原生家庭對個人成長的影響。芬說:「原 來我過去一直以來被娘家冷待,所以用自己的方法去追求關愛。怎知愈追卻愈追不到」。芬有所領悟,適值友人邀請參加了教會的佈道會,講述婚外情和反叛的見證 皆與芬的經驗貼近而大受感動。芬回憶當時「上帝對我說:『妳如此罪愆,我仍愛妳。妳不能對妳的丈夫好一點嗎?』」芬的眼淚不住的流著,內心漸漸澄明了,她 看到丈夫在過去對她有不少的鼓勵和支持,而自己也有隱瞞與自私的地方。自此大大收歛了催迫之勢,給丈夫多點自由空間。衝突減少了,丈夫也恆常回家居住。芬 選擇放下,不再追問丈夫的婚外情,每天讀聖經和祈禱。她形容「每首詩歌都特意讓她感動,就算等候巴士也不消多久便有上帝派遣司機來接載她」。芬表示不單沒 有再向丈夫施以暴力,而且兩人關係有如細水長流,安舒地相繫著。

  返教會當然不是靈丹妙藥。重點是甚麼樣的信念導引出甚麼樣的人生。芬以上帝的恩典帶引她尋找眷愛,頓悟了,便放下執著;眼開了,便見到優處;包容了,便得解怨憤;耕作了,便盼望收成。

  輔導者要感謝上帝,有幸聆聽脆弱者的故事,使其生命豐厚。不單只阿芬需要「神蹟」,我們輔導者也需要「看見」「神蹟」,讓我們知道上帝的作為,使信不疑、望不滅、愛不息,陪走顛簸世途。

 轉載自時代論譠生命觸光(作者團隊:霍玉蓮、李杏玲、盧夢鳴、李麗平、姜麗連、陸凱珊、何子美、麥志堅。)

芬終在三十歲獲得了居港權,立刻找工作,除了可以賺錢養家外,還增強操控丈 夫的意念。終於在一次謾罵中,慣於被欺的丈夫狠狠地一腳踢中芬的腹部,芬頓時倒地不起。她召警求助,導致社工介入這個家庭。三年後,一家四口獲配公屋,終 於有屬於自己的居所,但丈夫終日投閒置散,芬身體虛弱,卻要獨自承擔起一家的開銷。芬說:「那晚加班後十時回到家裡,見到丈夫仍在打機,我無名火起,於是 便打他,自始慣常打他。」「我渴望得到丈夫的關心,可是,我趨前他就走遠。」後來,芬的丈夫聲稱在國內工作,索性間斷地不回家。芬當然知道是怎麼一回事, 雖然多番追問,可丈夫的回應就是「不承認,也不否認」。

  五年前是芬人生轉向的里程碑。芬参加了筆者的心理教育小組,分享有兩樣得 著,第一,明白到衝突多因語氣惹起,為了稍延衝動的爆發,靜化喧囂的咆哮,盡量以短訊跟丈夫及子女溝通;第二,追溯原生家庭對個人成長的影響。芬說:「原 來我過去一直以來被娘家冷待,所以用自己的方法去追求關愛。怎知愈追卻愈追不到」。芬有所領悟,適值友人邀請參加了教會的佈道會,講述婚外情和反叛的見證 皆與芬的經驗貼近而大受感動。芬回憶當時「上帝對我說:『妳如此罪愆,我仍愛妳。妳不能對妳的丈夫好一點嗎?』」芬的眼淚不住的流著,內心漸漸澄明了,她 看到丈夫在過去對她有不少的鼓勵和支持,而自己也有隱瞞與自私的地方。自此大大收歛了催迫之勢,給丈夫多點自由空間。衝突減少了,丈夫也恆常回家居住。芬 選擇放下,不再追問丈夫的婚外情,每天讀聖經和祈禱。她形容「每首詩歌都特意讓她感動,就算等候巴士也不消多久便有上帝派遣司機來接載她」。芬表示不單沒 有再向丈夫施以暴力,而且兩人關係有如細水長流,安舒地相繫著。

  返教會當然不是靈丹妙藥。重點是甚麼樣的信念導引出甚麼樣的人生。芬以上帝的恩典帶引她尋找眷愛,頓悟了,便放下執著;眼開了,便見到優處;包容了,便得解怨憤;耕作了,便盼望收成。

  輔導者要感謝上帝,有幸聆聽脆弱者的故事,使其生命豐厚。不單只阿芬需要「神蹟」,我們輔導者也需要「看見」「神蹟」,讓我們知道上帝的作為,使信不疑、望不滅、愛不息,陪走顛簸世途。

 轉載自時代論譠生命觸光(作者團隊:霍玉蓮、李杏玲、盧夢鳴、李麗平、姜麗連、陸凱珊、何子美、麥志堅。)

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主祷文的再思

February 21st, 2017 Comments off

主祷文的再思

 

/赖建鹏

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我们在天上的父,愿人都尊你的名为圣。愿你的国降临,愿你的旨意行在地上,如同行在天上。我们日用的饮食,今日赐给我们。免我们的债,如同我们免了人的债。不叫我们遇见试探,救我们脱离凶恶。因为国度、权柄、荣耀,全是你的,直到永远。阿们!(马太福音6:9-13)

 

圣经中叙述到主耶稣的门徒也想学习祷告,于是便请主亲自教导他们。你有没有留意到众门徒并没有请主教导他们怎样去讲道、行神迹或者是做见证,他们只是单单想去学习祷告。因为我相信懂得祷告的人就会做见证和行神迹;懂得祷告的人才有能力去遵行神的旨意。

 

我们虽然在每个星期的崇拜里都一起用主祷文来祷告,但你可曾试过单独在家里用主祷文作个人祷告呢?其实主祷文既可应用在公祷上,也可用在私祷上。

 

曾经有人质疑究竟在公祷时有多少人真是每一句、每一字都发自内心,抑或只是在口头上“背诵”出主祷文?我们唱圣诗时要口唱心和才有意思,那么我们以主祷文来祷告时,便更应从心到口、从里到外,以构成我们对神的一个真诚祷告。

 

加尔文曾经这么说,主祷文是我们不可缺少的辅助。主祷文旣是主耶稣亲自教导门徒祈祷所用的一个典范,那么我们不单要背诵它,更要思想里面每一个字和每一句的意义。

 

密室内的祷告

 

主祷文,是主耶稣教导我们的祈祷,关上门译作“密室”,主教导我们要在密室内祷告,因为神听祈祷。密室不一定需要在房间内,未必有房可关上门,不一定指空间。密室意思是指一对一、专心,不被人影响。你有密室吗?公祷与私祷不同,私祷是我一人对着神祈祷。有时公祷的祷告,因为对着会众有时也有点虚伪,因为也有人在听你祷告,在密室内的祷告是单独迎见神,对神说出你的真心话。当然神更喜悦真心的祷告。

 

我们也许对人有时无话可说,但对神无论说什么话,一定有话可说。又有些人以为和神没有空间相处,那是因我们有些话不能对神说,因为我们与罪妥协,不敢和罪战争,诗篇66篇18节:“我若心里注重罪孽、主必不听。”注重这两字,原文意思是指珍惜,我若珍惜罪,是表明享受罪中之乐,若不离开罪,不认罪和悔改,神不会听我们的祈祷,神也不愿意与你相见。耶稣说:“清心的人有福了!”我们要有清洁的心,主的宝血洁净我们之后,我们有了清洁的心,成为圣洁,因为神是圣洁的,我们得以因信称义,过分别为圣的生活,神才与我们见面、沟通。在密室中单对单与神见面,没有拦阻,是坦诚的、直率的交谈,因为在密室中听众只有一位——就是神。

 

赏赐与垂听

 

神垂听祷告和神的赏赐有什么分别?在马太福音6:4、7耶稣教训门徒说:“你们祷告的时候,不可像那假冒为善的人,爱站在会堂里,和十字路口上祷告,故意叫人看见。我实在告诉你们,他们已经得了他们的赏赐……你们祷告,不可像外邦人,用许多重复话。他们以为话多了必蒙垂听。”新译本形容假冒为善的人是伪君子,主耶稣教我们不要学效法利赛人。我们要在密室里祈祷,他们要得人的奖赏,门徒却要得着主耶稣的奖赏,天父的奖赏。那么我们祈祷,是要神垂听,也是要祂的奖赏。

 

主耶稣的奖赏是:

 

祂启示自己

 

让我们能够认识神。主祷文第一句“我们在天上的父”,神是独一的真神,而且祂愿意成为我们的天父,祂启示祂自己。基督教是唯一启示的宗教,祂启示自己是圣洁的,耶稣是我们的长兄,祂是神的儿子,我们因为耶稣基督的缘故成为神的儿子。因为“凡接待祂的、就是信祂名的人,祂就赐他们权柄,作神的儿女。”(约1:12)

 

祂启示祂的名

 

愿人都尊你的名为圣,原文没有“愿”。神的名就是圣洁的,祈祷可得到的奖赏就是可以认识神,“认识”是生命的经历,我们认识上帝,是因为我们和祂有生命的关系、亲密的交通,亲密如父子一样,无论我们生命是酸甜苦辣,我们都可以对祂说。小孩子和父亲说话不用怕说错话,祂都不介意,我们可以无虚伪无保留地向神直说。

 

我们认识到神是圣洁的,我们既是祂的儿女,我们的性情是否和祂一样?在我们的生命中,是否流露出真、善、美?是自然的,不是造作,因为我们有神的性情、神的生命,因此能流露出神的性情。所以在登山宝训中的八福之一福是:“清心的人有福了,因为他们必得见神。”看到神的时候,别人也能从我们的身中看到神。

 

祂启示祂的国

 

与神同作神的工。因为我们认识神,因此得到神的特权成为祂的儿女,必参与神的工作。神的国在那里?神的国在我们心中,法利赛人曾问:“神的国在哪里?”耶稣回答说:神的国就在你们心里,信主的人就有神国的,心里原文可“中间”。凡信的人,都是神的国。第二个奖赏就是我们可和神走同一条路,与神同工。我们说与神同行,就是与神同工。若不同心,怎样同行?神的心意是怎样?是要完成神的工。我们活着的目标和意义,就是我们认识了神,作祂的儿女,我们要与神一同作神的工。昔日,主耶稣差遣十二个门徒作祂的工,他们倚靠什么?门徒不是靠他们自己,但他们能够为主作工,因为神赐予他们能力、倚靠神,当他们传讲神的信息时,神与他们同在,与他们同工。

 

“神的国”意思就是掌权,神的国在哪里,神掌权的领域就在哪里。神的国未进入(In)我们的心之前,我们的“旧我”先要出去(Out),生命本来是“我”的,是“我”的王国,但当我们认识了主,愿意接受主作我们生命的主,愿祂的国在我们心里,以致活着的不再是我,乃是基督在我里面活着。基督在我们心里作主作王,祂掌权,不再是我行我素,做事不再随从自己,祂掌管我们的人生,不可再活在自我当中。

 

神的国在教会吗?神的国在每一个人心中,他们就能同心,每人都以主为掌管者,神的掌权就临到教会。教会若没有神在当中掌管,虽然名字是“教会”,但那不是神的国,神的教会,今天许多教会不是教会,因为神不在当中。

 

祂启示祂的旨意

 

究竟神的旨意是什么?神要我们成全祂的旨意。主祷文说:“愿你的旨意行在地上,如同行在天上。”神的旨意在天上自由而行,不能拦阻,地上却有很多拦阻:撒但的拦阻、政权的拦阻、自我的拦阻。

 

祂的供应

 

人的灵和肉体的需要,是全人的需要,但人总是注重肉体,所以主祷文说;“我们日用的饮食,今日赐给我们。”神供应我们每一天的需要,满足就是富足,所谓知足常乐,神赐予就当存感恩的心领受,得享满足,真正富足就是神的同在。

 

肉身的需要:亚古珥求两件事,他先承认自己的过犯,肯悔改之后,在箴言30章8节,亚古珥“求虚假离开我,求你使虚假和谎言远离我。使我也不贫穷,也不富足,赐给我需用的饮食。”他求两件事,但不是求拥有更多,不是求多土地、多财产,也不是如所罗门求智慧,他只求神的同在,因为人财富越多、拥有越多,便会被私欲包围。昔日接待先知以利亚的寡妇,面对饥荒,只剩一点面粉,吃完便没有了,但她顾念神的仆人需要,肯把那有限的所有奉献给神,从此每日都不缺乏。五饼二鱼的小孩,本可供一家人吃饱,他却肯奉献出来,不仅令五千人吃饱,更有剩余。因为有神的同在,神的同在就是富足。神与我们同在,衪知道我们有需要,祂就必供应。感谢神每日的供应,我们当以感恩的心祈求,以感恩的心接受。

 

“免我们的债”

 

主祷文说“免我们的债,如同我们免了人的债。”这个祷告是对神说,“神啊!你赦免我的罪,好像我宽恕别人的罪。”意思是我的人际关系要做得好,就是说我要宽恕别人的罪,我宽恕别人,神也因此宽恕我。我们体会被神赦免得着那自由、平安和喜乐时,我们也要像神一样宽恕人。以前我们被罪所捆绑,没有喜乐和平安,现在得到了,所以主祷文不仅提自己的需要,也要顾及别人的需要。主祷文中强调神与人、人与神、人与人的和谐生活。

 

灵的需要

 

“不叫我们遇见试探,救我们脱离凶恶。”祂不会领我们进入试探,“救”是指拯救、保护的意思,“凶恶”是指那恶者。不同的人对撒但的试探有不同的反应。有的人好像海绵一样,遇上水就会不断吸收,凡是撒但试探的都接受。以下几种人最容易接受撒但的试探:

 

1.不明是非的人。人云亦云,盲目跟从。2.骄傲的人。撒但在骄傲人身上有力量。有一次大卫很骄傲地去数点兵力、人数,自觉很有力量,把荣耀归给自己。神说你做错了,后来他认罪悔改,知道自己有罪了。3.情绪化的人。情绪变化无常,灵命起伏不定。人情绪低落的时候,就是撒但进攻的好机会。4.游手好闲的人。因为人游手好闲,就会胡思乱想。

 

“因为国度、权柄、荣耀,全是你的,直到永远。”

 

弟兄姐妹,神的国在你身上吗?神的国是否在教会?神的权柄有否在你身上彰现?你有否可把福音的大能、神的权柄和荣耀传递给人呢?

 

赖建鹏 渥太华宣道会及温哥华活泉宣道会创会牧师,今已退休,现为温哥华宣道会福群堂顾问牧师。

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10林艺华Giulia祷告是我们每个基督徒的必修课。要想成为一个真正的基督徒,就要学会进到密室里于主相会,这是神喜悦的。神是听祷告的神。求神施恩于我,赐我祷告的灵,使我灵命天天见长,蒙主喜悦。祷告是奉主名祈求,阿们!Yesterday7高攀真心实意,最为宝贵,主啊,我要对你真心真意,求主给孩子诚实无伪的心对着你,奉主耶稣基督的圣名除去仇敌借着肉体和环境的一切引诱和迷惑,废去魔鬼的作为,释放普天下那些被压制的灵魂,除去异端邪教的行径,阿门!Yesterday 5婉宝贝感谢有主同在!荣耀归于神!阿门!

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顧他人瓦上霜

February 21st, 2017 Comments off

顧他人瓦上霜   悦說

跟進少芬的困境剛好一年了。她原有一個令人羨慕的生活。在紀律部隊工作的丈夫為人正直,盡忠職守,而且更投資有道,獲利甚豐。十三歲的女兒伶俐可愛,天真温純。少芬則相夫教女之餘,在教會中積極事奉,更兼職業助理,協助弱勢人士尋找工作和職場適應。   可是,丈夫的婚外情就如龍捲風突如其來,把少芬的美好家園徹底摧毀。面對少芬的提問,丈夫直認不諱。無論少芬怎樣苦苦哀求,丈夫仍無動於衷,拋妻棄女,搬離家園。萬念俱灰之際,少芬萌起自殺的念頭。   少芬做事認真,連自殺也計劃周全。她預備了各樣身後事,部署女兒參加了教會的少年宿營後,她便安心地服用五十多粒的安眠藥。自殺計劃如少芬預期中進行,但發生了意外。「是上帝拯救我,成功地使我的計劃失敗。昏迷三天便甦醒過來。期間我沒有看到或聽到異象。我回復知覺後沒有求醫,只是自動自覺走進廚房,預備晚飯待孩子當晚宿營完畢後回家享用。」少芬憶述出死入生的經歷。   我除了個別輔導外,我和少芬及她的女傳道成立了WhatsApp群組,提防間歇去而復返的自殺念頭,也在她未陷溺於負面情緒前作出快速的支援。我們也成功協助她爭取了贍養費和資產。   陪走了一年,今天與少芬的面談,一如既往由女傳道陪同。正如我所料,少芬意識到自己良好的康復進度。經輔導後,少芬不再誤以不能維持完整家庭為恥,主動向重要的親朋交代失婚的消息。她領會了神話語的真實,就是「有這寶貝放在瓦器裡,要顯明這莫大的能力是出於神,不是出於我們。」(林後四7)見證在於上帝在她身上的作為,生命的價值是上帝賦予。少芬不再自卑,重整生活的意義。日後的輔導我也循著感恩、鼓勵和賦權鞏固少芳的信心。   正在完結今次面談之際,少芬突然問我就她在兼職就業輔導而認識兩個當事人的困境給予建議和分析。一位是童年被父親性侵犯的中年女士,另一位是受兒子對性充滿好奇而困惑的母親。少芬因著工作緣故而認識她們,繼而成為朋友。就她的詢問,我給予初步的分析和有用的資料作参考。   話畢,我禁不住問少芬:「妳自己剛從生關死結活過來,創傷仍在康復中,還有備而來問我這童年受性侵的女士和對性充滿好奇的小一學生。究竟這樣的慈心從何而出呢?」   少芬微笑道:「上帝很了解我,知道我這人就是這樣。在我無望,灰到盡頭時,工作上見到活在不同困境的人,他們都願意分享難處,心裡好想她們得到鼓勵,好想她們信耶穌。」   聽罷少芬所言,我頓感訝異。因為少芬似乎自顧不暇,卻能分出心力去顧及他人需要。「自家未清門前雪,仍顧他人瓦上霜」。   沉思良久,我悟出少芬的復原(Recovery)和抗逆(Resilience)並不能單以優勢向度能理解的。她是上帝直接的工作。誠如聖經所說:「『我的恩典夠你用的,因為我的能力是在人的軟弱上顯得完全。』所以,我更喜歡誇自己的軟弱,好叫基督的能力覆庇我。」(林後十二9   我作為輔導者,欣感藉少芬同行,見證上帝奇工。我更要敬虔好奇(Godly curious)地探求上帝的覆庇。 (作者團隊:霍玉蓮、盧夢鳴、陸凱珊、李杏玲、李麗平、何子美、麥志堅、朱紹佳、劉桂玲、趙穎懿。

 
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如明光照耀 – 賴建鵬牧師與賴羅聰慧師母的人生

December 22nd, 2016 Comments off


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你們顯在這世代中,好像明光照耀,將生命的道表明出來

腓立比書2:15b-16a

身爲《殉道者之聲》的受訓義工,我從那些在敵對上帝的環境下堅持站在祂一邊的人身上,看到神奇妙的恩典。就如主在哥林多後書12:9對保羅說:

我的恩典夠你用的。

因爲我的能力,是在人的軟弱上顯得完全。

從賴建鵬牧師與賴羅聰慧師母身上,上帝也清楚地顯明祂是又真又活的神。他們經過一個困難又一個困難,面對一個苦難又一個苦難,幾十年來,他們繼續忠心地走在神所安排的窄路上,殷勤地服侍祂,帶領多人歸基督,還帶著微笑地抬起頭來。

感謝神給我機會,1978年到1986年,跟賴牧師與師母在渥太華華人宣道會一起事奉神。在這8年,他們的牧養深深地影響了我的人生與事奉。有3本書*分享他們的生涯經歷和多人的回應(一些被他們觸摸到的生命),讓我們較全面地瞭解神如何在他們的身上動工。在這裏,我要分享一些事件。願神的名得著榮耀。

*1)雨后彩虹;(2)微笑暖心窝;(3)谱出缱绻聪慧情

1. 在加拿大渥太華開荒

1973年,賴建鵬牧師蒙香港宣道會希伯崙堂差派到加拿大渥太華宣教。賴牧師深受邊雲波弟兄所寫的〈獻給無名的傳道者〉所激勵,立志忠心地一生爲主傳道。當時希伯崙堂的主任牧師是 李非吾牧師。他的兒子李思敬博士(現今中國神學研究院院長)回憶說:

七十年代,在我們希伯崙堂一群大男孩心目中,賴建鵬牧師簡直就是一個傳奇… []是教會每周代禱記念的名字,更是我們蒙召獻身的信心典範。

賴牧師回憶當時開荒的情形:

第一次的兒童主日學是帶一群小朋友去釣魚,然後由〈五餅二魚〉的故事講起;青年人事工是由機場的接送,接待到舍下小住,輔導他們等服事開始;成人方面則主要關顧肢體的生活所需,如協助搬房子,教駕車,協助他們入籍,看醫生時翻譯等,然後才逐漸引導他們認識真神。

滌然女士對當時情形的一些觀察:

我隨外子史祈生牧師,去加拿大的渥太華中國教會,領一個夏令會。教會的牧者是一對年輕的夫婦。只見他們輪流抱著一個嬰孩,一個要主持聚會,一個要司琴,嬰孩就傳來遞去的…

當時有很多弟兄姐妹被神的愛,藉著他們,深深地被觸摸:

縱使千言萬語,也難以描述內心對賴師母的感激。無論我到哪里去,都必與人分享她是上帝扭轉我生命的一個重要人物。過去,我是一個極度缺乏自信的人;因著賴師母悉心及愛心的開導,讓我的生命一百八十度被改變與被發掘! 談張堅愛師母

三十多年後的今天,我仍然記得那一刻–我痛哭地奔跑賴師母家,她以溫柔的心靈鼓勵我… J.So

在渥宣的日子…您都帶著笑容迎接我們,就是雖然室外下著大雪,您親切的笑容和關懷使我們這群學生都感到溫暖。我信主已40年了,我在渥宣信主,受造就,被呼召,您和牧師就一直悉心提點教導,在我服侍的路上支援我和丈夫Patrick。每次回去都十分享受與您和牧師的相聚,在牧師身上我們看到神僕人應有的忠心和堅持,在您身上,我們看到神的使女應有的順服和喜樂。您倆的生命影響了我們。 R.Tong宣教士

2. 小兒子出生與師母患了類風濕關節炎

感謝上帝,在渥宣開荒期間,祂賜給賴牧師與師母兩個孩子。但很多時候,神的安排卻與人的期望不同。當《小兒子明哲出生時,雙腳朝天而出。第一天就需要接受矯形手術。一周後,又出現不能進食和排泄症狀,情況甚爲令人擔心幼年時持續有數年雙腿需要打石膏。兩個星期就要更換一次石膏,需要用鋸子鋸開石膏,有時甚至會割傷皮肉。我感到十分害怕,害怕電鋸會鋸傷他的小腿…》

賴師母:《生了第二個孩子以後,就得了類風濕關節炎開始時一個個關節輪流痛三年後才查出原來我是患上類風濕關節炎。那位醫生很仔細地爲我檢查,並把此病的症狀告訴我說:“你將會很痛很痛,痛到你死那天”。我笑笑地說:“不要緊,我禱告,耶穌會幫助我”。那位醫生不是基督徒,他說:“你禱告也沒用,禱告一百次也沒有。因爲神造你的時候,造錯了一點,現在你就病囉!”我聽了很生氣,因爲他說神造錯。接下來那幾天我就笑不出來了,因爲心裏很難過,但是神給了我一首詩歌:〈當轉眼仰望耶穌〉…》

賴牧師:《有一天,當我靈修誦讀詩篇十三篇時,看到詩人受苦的痛苦心路歷程與掙扎,讓我再重新思考自己心中的苦情與疑惑詩人向神求問:爲何忘記了他?神爲何轉眼不顧他?令他終日愁苦,仇敵又勝了他內心的掙扎與痛苦,苦情與埋怨,是不能與信徒分享的,只能在禱告中向神求問神讓我從詩篇十三篇學習到:

1. 眼目不要停留在〈近〉處,而是要向〈遠〉望,繼續仰望上帝;

2. 眼目不要只著重〈現在〉,而是要看〈將來〉,對上帝常存盼望;

3. 眼目不要停留在〈環境〉如何,而是要看〈神的屬性〉,深信祂的愛與公義從沒改變。》

《縱然聰慧罹患類風濕關節炎三十多年 [接受了換關節手術十三次,不能自己行動,又經常痛得要命],像是一根被壓傷的蘆葦 然而,她效法主耶穌特別關愛弱者。她的身邊經常出現一些<被壓傷的蘆葦,將殘的燈火>般的人,卻因遇見她,生命從此得以扭轉。》

我在十四歲時正是需要被肯定的年代,那時賴師母正是用充滿確定和平穩的聲音帶領我們賴師母是我的第一個主日學老師,爲我的信仰成長打下了基礎雖然我只在活泉教會三年,在二十年裏,我仍然每天都在實行她的教導方式我立志在這一生中要把這份遺産傳遞下去。 Abraham L

他的媽媽後來告訴師母:“我的孩子十二歲時,父親離家出走。我帶著三個兒女到了加拿大,正在爲孩子們憂心忡忡之時 …”

Henry本來是一個很孤獨又很傷心的青年人 但經過妳的耐心勸導,他終於接受了救恩 他對向中國傳福音很有負擔,有一天他告訴妳,他準備修讀英文教師文憑,然後前赴中國一年,透過教授英文來傳福音 賴牧師

她無論在何種情況下都表現出對神的愛,並一心想要侍奉主 從不說:“我身體不好不方便”,相反,我記得她總是在微笑 Rev. R. Manickam, Cambodian Min. for Christ 主任

二十多年認識的賴師母,已是一個需靠輪椅代步的師母,行動顯得甚爲不便,且經年累月生活在疼痛的折磨下。然而二十多年來我從未看見她有沮喪的面容。每次見到她,都被她那燦爛的笑容所迷住;心想苦難不是和眼淚併行嗎?但在牧師和師母身上,看到的只是喜樂的心,和完全信靠上帝的生活。 舟子

3. 在師母極需照顧時,賴牧師得了末期癌症

1997年,在賴牧師正準備赴機場飛往洛杉磯前十分鐘,醫生好辛苦才找到他,在電話裏告訴他患了末期鼻咽癌。後來看到統計,這種末期癌症病人得醫治的機會極微。當天晚上,他們一家人度過一個非常不愉快的晚上。

內子心裏難過,想到自己這麽多年來的病痛都是丈夫扶助她。他是一家的支柱。大兒子還可以自立謀生,但小兒子何等需要他啊!想到此,淚水就奪眶而出賴牧師

那天晚上,他們還是照常一起靈修。當天Upper Room的經文是希伯來書4:15-16

因我們的大祭司並非不能體恤我們的軟弱。祂也曾凡事受過試探,與我們一樣,只是祂沒有犯罪。所以,我們只管坦然無懼的來到施恩的寶座前,爲要得憐恤,蒙恩惠,作隨時的幫助。

這正是他們需要的資訊。他們的回應是:

主啊!我要向山舉目,我的幫助從何而來,我的幫助從那創造天地之主而來。

兩位姐妹先後探望他們,要安慰他們。但一見面說不到兩句話,淚水就奪眶而出。牧師對她們說,有時確是很難明白神的旨意,但必須學習完全接納,完全順服。神如今允許這事來臨,我們也深信神從來作

事沒有絲毫差錯,所以我們要學習完全順服,看祂要我們學習的是甚麽功課。她們聽了之後立刻停止流淚,面上浮現喜樂之笑容。

從問:“爲甚麽是我?”到問:“我可以爲神作甚麽?”

師母對牧師說,可能神要他實際地在癌症病人中事奉祂,向他們傳福音,真正關懷他們身心靈的需要,讓他們都得著永生。感謝主,在短短的兩個月中,帶領了數位癌症病友及患關節炎的病友歸主。後來更投入向癌症病人傳福音的事工,帶領多人信主。

在溫哥華癌症中心向一位資深的華人教授傳福音,但遭他立時反擊:“我是不信的,陳方安生曾是我的學生,金博士曾是我的同事…”言下之意,就是你不用多說了。

我對他說:“你不是不信,乃是未信,有一天,你明白及體會神的大愛時,你是會信主的。”以後我們就不常見面。

有一天,他的侄女邀請我探望他。經過3次的探訪,分享,神的靈感動了他們夫婦,兩人謙卑地接受主爲他們的救主及生命的主。 賴牧師

賴牧師接受了35次放射治療,199839日醫生檢查時,體內沒有癌細胞。他就繼續赴加州柬埔寨難民中牧養及傳福音。當地車輛廢氣較多,因電療副作用的影響,晚上睡眠時感到相當吃力。感謝主,蒙祂保守,在他侍奉的那一年间,信徒從十多位增加到五十多位。

滕近輝牧師的評語:

病痛是試金石,許多基督徒一試即倒,滿口怨言,滿腹疑惑, 但賴牧師在癌症多次襲擊之下,仍堅心順服與依靠主,向病患誇勝, 作了美好的見證,榮歸主名。

4. 師母得了癌症

賴師母在20141115日確診患上癌症,2015920日主懷安息。她說:

在我最憂傷痛苦時,神的話是我的安慰及力量。有一首詩歌:

我的心哪,你爲何憂悶,爲何在我裏面煩躁。 應當仰望神,因祂笑臉幫助我,我還要稱讚祂。 42:5

我很喜歡這首詩,當我憂悶時,我就仰望神,因爲祂用笑臉幫助我。

大兒子銘德的分享:

母親對癌症的發展,一直都是十分的平靜祥和的面對。不論從起初忽然知道自己罹患癌症,數月後進行了切除腫瘤手術,再數月後腫瘤科醫生向她展示癌細胞已擴散至全身部位時,她仍是表現得非常的平靜;未幾,醫生指出她的癌症沒有醫療的機會時,她仍是平靜面對;最後,醫生說她剩下時日不多,生命面對倒數餘下日子,她,依然是完全的平靜!一連串翻天覆地的負面消息,她竟然如此的平靜祥和的面對!對我,這真是一個生命存活,生動而又滿有感染力的楷模!

母親在她人生最後的十一天,被送進列治文中央醫院的舒緩病房,每個晚上,我都與她在床邊共語,母子間的對話,都使我感到母親何等的祥和平靜。她向我強調,她對自己的理解,比任何人更清楚,她的確是在天父的手中,而她深信天父終會對她全然的醫治!

她最後一次的分享鼓勵:

從她身上看到神的愛,更開心感受到被愛及被鼓勵的甜蜜。直到最後一次因她身體太虛弱,不能回教會聚會,於是我們跟十多位弟兄姐妹,到她家探望她及一起唱聖詩。師母當時身體雖已很不舒服,但她仍然微笑著,對我們作出最後一次的分享及鼓勵。恩主解除師母地上的勞苦,將我們這位完滿有神樣式的師母,接返天家了。我們帶著萬般不捨的心情在地上暫別這位不一樣的師母。 R. Wong

賴牧師的分享:

她最後一次在家中與我們教會弟兄姐妹分享見證時說,在前一天晚上睡覺時,心中忽然想起一首<祂必預備>的詩歌,似乎主賜給她感動,因她知道她要返天家了。晚上半夜在床上她要與我一同唱這首詩歌,特別第二節:

或這時,或那時,主必定預備,

雖不照我時候,也不照你時候,

主自有祂的時候,主必定預備。

我所有靠主,因祂必預備;我一生靠主,因主必預備。

… … … …

他們的見證告訴我們,上帝明顯地活在他們的生命裏,勝過幽暗的權勢。在這黑暗的世界裏,他們如明光照耀。讓我引述《殉道者之聲》一篇文章的一段作爲結束:

這世界不需要多一張身處順境者的快樂臉龐,

但卻需要一個在生活支離破碎時,仍然滿有喜樂的面容。

《喜樂》證實有一個更偉大的生命與我們同在;

一個能勝過人生痛苦和折磨的《永恒盼望》。

… … … …

(筆者是<殉道者之聲> (VOM) 受訓的義務同工, 樂意免費到各教會或查經班分享有關世界各地基督徒爲主耶穌受逼迫的見證,激勵信徒,並推進自由世界的信徒與受逼迫的信徒的團契。)

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MY LOVE FOR YVONNE WAS MET WITH STRONG OPPOSITION FROM HER FATHER

September 25th, 2016 Comments off

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By:  Rev. Paul Lai

 

Translated By: Stephen Li

 

I Love Yvonne:

 

Yvonne’s father was a church deacon.  In the early days when the church was constructing its building, he volunteered as construction supervisor.  As a deacon, he very much loved the Lord and loved people, and was an elderly man with spiritual depth.  He was honest and frank, having lost his wife in middle age.  For the sake of four young daughters, he insisted on not remarrying.  I admired him a lot and got along with him very well.  We often did visitation together, and I often went to his home and talked and shared about God’s word.

 

Every time I visited him, I chose the chair facing the front door, so that when Yvonne returned home from school she would immediately see me.  Every time she returned home, she always glanced at me with a smile.  Her pure and silent smile plucked the strings of my heart.  Sometimes I intentionally delayed my departure just to see her smile.  The moment when our eyes met, it was so romantic!  As time went on our love for one another grew, and the flame of love burned in our hearts.  It was a pity that we did not have the opportunity to be together by ourselves.  I could only silently love her in my heart, and dared not express it openly.  Firstly, her father was strict. Secondly, girls in those days were reserved and conservative, unlike young people today.  Lastly, she was still a student, and was also busy serving as a French tutor. 

 

Once I waited until she finished tutoring and accompanied her on her way home.  I invited her to dine at a restaurant serving Western food, but she refused, and would only accept a glass of 7-up, pointing out that I just graduated, had not found a job yet, and that I was not rich.  We rarely had the opportunity to be together by ourselves, and did not have time to talk deeply.  We could only chat a little, as she had to rush home, in order not to be reprimanded by her father for returning home late.  I remember one night I waited until Yvonne finished her English night school and accompanied her on her way home.  When we were close to her home, Yvonne suddenly realized that it was the time her father walked his beloved dog.  We immediately took another route, or else we might be discovered by her father and be scolded.  Every time we only had ten to twenty minutes of walking together.  Even though it was not under romantic circumstances, we treasured that very much. 

 

Chinese people in Cambodia in the sixties were quite conservative.  If a male and female walked together, or if one rode on a bicycle with someone of the opposite gender, people would think they were lovers.  People would gossip that they were dating and discussing marriage.  Therefore, parents would not casually allow their children to date. 

 

Met with Strong Opposition from Yvonne’s Father:

 

Over ten years ago, Yvonne and I went to Paris and visited some brothers and sisters whom we had grown up together with.  One of the brothers said to me: “Mr. Low (Yvonne’s father) was very strict, so no one dared to pursue his daughter.  You had the courage and were not afraid of being scolded by him.  Only you had this courage and perseverance, waiting for love to blossom over a long period of time.”  I immediately replied with humour:  “If others had the courage to pursue her, then my pursuit might not have succeeded.  It was because no one else had the courage to pursue her, while I had, so I was able to get her!” 

 

In fact, her father had scolded me!  As a result, I dared not visit her home for a long time.  One day her father angrily said to me: “My daughter is focusing on her studies, and this is not the right time for romance.  I have asked Yvonne about you.  She said she has no intention of taking you.  (This was because at that time Yvonne was very afraid of her father, and did not dare to admit.)  Do not continue to  unrequited love’ in  At that time I felt really bad and could only leave feeling dejected, not daring to step into her home again.  This was especially so, because just before this incident of being severely rebuked by her father, two pastors had come from the Philippines to Cambodia on a tour, and I brought them to Yvonne’s home as guests.  The two pastors asked me to serve as their tour guide for them to see the palace.  When Yvonne’s elder sister heard that, she kept saying she wanted to come along.  At that time Yvonne was at school.  During the sightseeing tour, the two pastors asked me: “Is she (Yvonne’s sister) your girlfriend?”  Immediately I denied it and said: “No, it’s her younger sister.”  Good grief – her sister also heard that and told her father after she returned home.  After he learned about that, he was furious!  He immediately tried to clarify with Yvonne, and mercilessly rebuked me,

 

 

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SWEET REFLECTION

September 15th, 2016 Comments off

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By: Sinn Yos

I met Yvonne in Cambodia. Her father was very close to my cousin. I was invited to her home several times. She gave me a dress as a gift and I wore it for a photo taken alongside my late husband. That was before I was married. I would stay at Yvonne‘s house because she lived in Phnom Penh, which was closer than Ta Kmao to my husband who was courting me at the time. We go back a very long way. She was a very sweet person and a good Christian. She always had a smile on her very pretty face. I will never forget her. She was a very good friend.

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